Like many of my past relationships, my relationship with money is fraught, complicated, and a huge, bright red flag. And yet, I care about money so much. Still, as a millennial, having had to navigate a recession at every pivotal point of my adult life, money has never appeared to care about me. “It’s because you have a scarcity mindset,” a friend said to me over expensive wine I said I couldn’t afford. “The reason you’re bad with money is that you believe you’re not worthy of having it,” she says, explaining the concept. “The money will come back if you have an abundant mindset,” she continues, raising her glass to toast. “Manifest it. Get the wine you want, not the one you think you should get.”